Dear Amy: This question mightiness look childish, but I americium a 61-year-old adult.
Why does everything look truthful atrocious astatine night? For the past twelvemonth oregon truthful I’ve recovered myself waking up from atrocious dreams astir each night. I commencement reasoning astir mundane issues regarding family, work, health, etc., and it each seems truthful overwhelming and urgent.
I enactment myself into panicked ruminations astir these problems. When the prima comes up, I inevitably recognize that everything I was disquieted astir overnight is really manageable by day.
The middle-of-the nighttime atrocious thoughts are truthful atrocious that I can’t oregon don’t privation to spell backmost to sleep, truthful I enactment the tv on, mostly tune into an old, cheerful, and agleam Hollywood musical, which does destruct the thoughts, but besides eliminates the sleep.
Do you cognize wherefore things look truthful atrocious astatine nighttime erstwhile they don’t successful the day? Also, bash you cognize of thing that mightiness assistance maine to halt doing this?
— Afraid of the Dark
Afraid: I fishy that your contented truly begins with your sleeping problem. If you were capable to slumber done the night, you wouldn’t person these anxious hours.
Your disordered slumber and nightmares could beryllium brought connected by anxiety, depression, oregon medication. You should reappraisal immoderate changes successful your routine, diet, oregon aesculapian presumption that mightiness origin this slumber interruption.
There are galore holistic remedies for amended slumber and immoderate medications that mightiness assistance you. I (a lifelong insomniac) person had occurrence precocious utilizing a CBD product, on with heavy breathing during those times erstwhile I’m awake. (If you ore connected your breath, you tin support those intrusive thoughts astatine bay.) I besides usually marque a to-do database earlier bedtime. The magic of the database is that it helps to signifier tomorrow’s tasks into manageable portions.
This is from an nonfiction titled “Nightmares and the Brain” published by Harvard Medical School (hms.harvard.edu):
“Psychological therapy for nightmares is called representation rehearsal therapy, oregon IRT. In this signifier of cognitive therapy, individuals, particularly those who repeatedly acquisition a fixed benignant of nightmare, are asked to callback and constitute down their nightmares, past asked to rewrite the nightmare and springiness it a affirmative ending. The idiosyncratic past rehearses the rewritten mentation earlier going to slumber with the purpose of displacing the unwanted contented during sleep.”
I emotion the thought of rewriting dreams. I anticipation you tin springiness your ain dreams happier endings.
Dear Amy: My woman and I were joined past year. It was the archetypal matrimony for some of us, adjacent though I americium successful my 60s and my woman is successful her 50s. Our friends and relatives cognize that we are financially secure.
One of my relatives and his woman gave america a wedding acquisition consisting of an acknowledgment from a charitable enactment of a acquisition made successful our names. No magnitude of the donation was listed, but I called and learned the magnitude was $100.
My woman and I are not opposed to this charity, but I’m not definite we would take to lend to it, adjacent though we person attended immoderate of their functions successful the past (my comparative is alert of this).
Is this a due wedding gift? My comparative didn’t cheque with america successful beforehand to marque definite we would o.k. this donation.
— Perplexed
Perplexed: Surely 1 vantage of being older newlyweds is that you person the fiscal stability, bully sense, perspective, and maturity not to make problems wherever nary exist.
Your comparative knew you’d expressed involvement successful this charity. You don’t study immoderate problems created by this donation. Yes, this was a thoughtful and due gift. I anticipation you explicit your gratitude for it.
(And — not that you asked, but calling the foundation to find retired the magnitude of wealth donated was tackier than a wedding brawl connected the creation floor.)
Dear Amy: “Upset” said that a mates had moved their RV onto her spot and were present surviving there, surrounded by their junked cars.
My municipality has regulations against this; Upset should cheque with the municipality for assistance successful removing them.
— Also Upset
Upset: Regulations speech — this is trespassing. (They were besides stealing her electricity.) I deliberation it’s clip to telephone the sheriff.
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