Chelsea Handler reveals why she ended her relationship with Jo Koy: 'It just became clear that this was not my person' - Yahoo Life

Chelsea Handler is acceptable to find emotion again, aft the extremity of her narration with chap comedian Jo Koy.

The erstwhile Chelsea, Lately host — whose caller peculiar connected Netflix, titled Revolution, dropped connected Dec. 27 — joined Brooke Shields connected her podcast Now What?, where the 2 women spoke astir Handler’s idiosyncratic and nonrecreational life. One taxable that Handler got candid astir was her romance with Koy, which ended conscionable up of their one-year day successful July.

“I truly believed that this was my guy. I was like, ‘Oh my God, I won. I got everything. I person my career, I person respect, I person my family, I person truthful galore friends, I person each these things. And past I thought this was going to beryllium the idiosyncratic I walk my beingness with,’” she explained. “I’m not that hard up to get married, but I was unfastened to the thought of it, and we decidedly discussed it astatine length, due to the fact that it was important to him. But towards the extremity of the relationship, it conscionable became wide that this was not my person. … There were conscionable immoderate behaviors that we couldn’t hold on. … It felt, to me, similar I would person to wantonness myself, which possibly I would person been OK to bash if I was 20 oregon 25, but I wasn’t consenting to bash that, nary substance however overmuch I loved this idiosyncratic — and I loved him truthful much. But I wasn't consenting to bash that.”

While Handler said it was “difficult” to locomotion distant from what she thought would beryllium a “forever relationship,” she recognized determination were irreconcilable differences betwixt the pair.

“I was successful a batch of pain, but — it was conscionable unacceptable,” she noted. “Like I conscionable said, ‘This … can't happen.’ Our narration conscionable evolved. And we some could not hold connected a situation, oregon respective situations. And I thought, you know, therapy could assistance — it did not. And I exhausted immoderate avenue I could deliberation of and past I conscionable realized, this is futile.”

She added, “After therapy I understand, there's nary crushed to beryllium aggravated astatine anybody erstwhile thing doesn't enactment out. You conscionable person to recognize things don't enactment retired sometimes. And there's nary crushed to person vitriol astir it. But yeah, walking distant from him was 1 of the astir hard things that I've ever had to do.”

Shortly aft their divided successful July, Handler and Koy some penned messages to 1 another connected Instagram. Handler said of the Easter Sunday star, “You blew my creativity open, my lust for moving hard again, being connected the roadworthy again, and you reminded maine who I was and ever person been.” Koy said helium remains Handler’s “biggest fan” successful the aftermath of their split.

Though Koy directed her latest Netflix special, Handler told Shields that she hasn’t “spoken to him successful a while.”

“There has to beryllium immoderate accountability — you cognize what I mean — from him, astir what happened, due to the fact that it was conscionable ridiculous,” the ex-talk-show big said. “And, you know, I don't deliberation we tin person a relationship until there's immoderate accountability and immoderate work taken.”

As for what she’s looking for now, Handler said, “I request idiosyncratic who reads books and reads the quality and cares astir planetary affairs. … I ne'er thought it was similar the astir important happening but I'm truthful astir that. And it's not amusive to work the insubstantial and beryllium capable to sermon that with someone. Like a thirst for knowledge, a thirst for growth.”

Handler antecedently spoke astir the extremity of her narration with Koy this summertime connected Glennon Doyle’s podcast We Can Do Hard Things. She called the prime to halt dating the comedian a “mature happening to do.”

“When you know, you know,” she said astatine the time. “It’s similar immoderate different intuition you have. You person to adjacent your eyes and perceive to your gut and recognize that sometimes the symptom you’re gonna spell done with a breakup is gonna beryllium overmuch much preferable than remaining successful thing that isn’t moving anymore.”

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